Lapp: @Roflcakes: Reals, I'm into it for girls (well, if they were the dominant ones), but it's like phobia-level for guys. A commanding girl that curses a lot and is forceful is hot, but a guy that would treat me that way is the stuff of nightmares. Dunno if it's 'cos I don't have the physique to withstand that treatment from a man without broken bones by the dozen, or because of my experience with males. Times like these make me feel like alternate-dimension Maskarade.
Roflcakes: @Lapp: Idunno, I kinda like it for either gender! I think it's really appealing, in both the dominant and submissive aspects.
"Do it rough" doesn't necessarily mean "beat the fucking shit out of them", though! Y'know, you can have rough, forceful sex and not leave with a dozen bruises and a bunch of cracked ribs! I view rough sex as a much wilder, more animal experience compared to passionate, slow love making where everyone is concerned about each other's feelings and junk. Sometimes it's nice to shut all of that out and submit to baser desires (this is assuming all parties involved are into it, of course.)
Lapp: @Roflcakes: Honestly, I really get that with girls (although I don't really enjoy being in the dominant perspective), but just don't with men. [More or less, some psychological profiling:] Pretty much the only physical contact I've ever had with a man has been being beaten up or something otherwise painful, to the extent that I'm afraid of being touched intentionally by a man. I don't care about unintentionally 'cos I understand that it plainly happens, but when a man tries to grab my arm or something...I'm just overcome with dread, and everything about me drops down. Whatever mood I was in is ruined, I feel shaken afterwards...I understand full well that this is likely rooted psychologically in trauma, but being touched by men isn't something I exactly want becoming habit either.
Legit, it's like that feeling when you imagine you're about to die; illogically so, but still. Quite literally a phobia, eheh. Probably explains why I act the opposite; I'm so gentle that when I poke someone for their attention, most don't feel me. Don't notice when I say "excuse me, miss" or the like either. I still feel like Bizzaro-Maskarade. ;~;
Roflcakes: @Lapp: Wow Lapp, that shit's fucked! I can sympathize though, 'cause I'm kinda like that, but nowhere near that extreme. I don't like being grabbed at, even if it's by people I know and I'm comfortable with and, to be perfectly honest, I don't even know why! I guess it's just a general aversion to unwanted human contact.
dugong_operation: I'm the same way, Lapp. Never been abused by a man before but male domination just disgusts and scares me like nothing else. On the other hand female domination is a huge fetish of mine.
Faptacular: I know from awkward experience that I'm too submissive in general to get to that right level of fun-rough.
And while I'm pretty casually profane in conversation when I'm supposed to be doing it to be "dirty" I can't keep a straight face. Mostly because I can't take much of anything seriously.
After that add so socially awkward that any[i/] unexpected physical contact from [i]anyone leaves me feeling weird for at least half an hour.
Anonymous1: @Faptacular: I know that feel, being appalled by physical contact, I wouldnt call it socially awkward, though (although obviously you might be both).
For me, I dont have any trouble with other human beings as long as it's talking, or drinking, or working...., but as soon as it gets physical I'm out.
Not kidding, it took me quite a bit to get at the point where I can shake hands without immediately wiping off my hands and look for a bathroom and some soap....
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"Do it rough" doesn't necessarily mean "beat the fucking shit out of them", though! Y'know, you can have rough, forceful sex and not leave with a dozen bruises and a bunch of cracked ribs! I view rough sex as a much wilder, more animal experience compared to passionate, slow love making where everyone is concerned about each other's feelings and junk. Sometimes it's nice to shut all of that out and submit to baser desires (this is assuming all parties involved are into it, of course.)
Legit, it's like that feeling when you imagine you're about to die; illogically so, but still. Quite literally a phobia, eheh. Probably explains why I act the opposite; I'm so gentle that when I poke someone for their attention, most don't feel me. Don't notice when I say "excuse me, miss" or the like either. I still feel like Bizzaro-Maskarade. ;~;
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...that's, the name of my dog, of course.
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And while I'm pretty casually profane in conversation when I'm supposed to be doing it to be "dirty" I can't keep a straight face. Mostly because I can't take much of anything seriously.
After that add so socially awkward that any[i/] unexpected physical contact from [i]anyone leaves me feeling weird for at least half an hour.
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For me, I dont have any trouble with other human beings as long as it's talking, or drinking, or working...., but as soon as it gets physical I'm out.
Not kidding, it took me quite a bit to get at the point where I can shake hands without immediately wiping off my hands and look for a bathroom and some soap....
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